WHEN YOU’RE NOT HAPPILY MARRIED
God wants us to stick together no matter what. (Mat 19:6) . . . Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.” But what do you do when you’re not happy anymore in your marriage? Is staying together a ticket to misery the rest of your days? Let’s talk about it, because there are many people who are not happy in their marriage.
HONOR YOUR VOWS: Okay, so you know divorce is not an option. You took your vows and you know what it says: For better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health. Be faithful to your spouse like Jesus is to you, His bride. (Heb 13:5)
DON’T SEPARATE: Those who separate enter the high-risk area of never coming back together. You’ve already made a step in that direction and it’s just easy to go the next step of divorce. There are rare reasons for separation but don’t fool yourself for other causes. (Mat 19:6)
KEEP MAKING LOVE: Don’t use sex as a tool to get back at your spouse. Sex is sacred and can bond you together. There are a lot of things we do in life that we don’t feel like doing. (1 Cor 7:2-5)
DON’T SHOP AROUND: It’s easy to fall out of love with your spouse and fall in love with someone else. You might be feeling lonely and desire to be loved, cared for, and understood. But God forbids adultery, and you want to avoid the steps that lead up to it. Fall in love with Jesus, and get yourself some godly friends who will support you until your marriage gets stronger. (Eph 3:17-20; Gal 6:2)
HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS: One person can’t fulfill all your needs in life. That is reserved for Jesus alone. Give your spouse some slack to be who they are. As you do, then watch how that grace comes right back to you. Remember, marriage is two sinners under one roof! (Rom 3:23; Col 2:10)
DIE TO YOUR SELF: In marriage there are many invitations to die to your own desires and prefer your spouse. Be mature. As you give in and serve your partner, God will bless you and grant you your longings because you were unselfish. (Mat 16:24; Phil 2:1-5)
HAVE FAITH: Every marriage has its ups and downs. Nothing’s too hard for God. Be optimistic and trust Him to work things out! (Heb 11:6)
AGAPE: When your love quotient is running low, read the love chapter (1 Cor 13). Then ask the Lord to fill you anew with His enduring love (Rom 5:5). And memorize these words of Jesus: (John 13:34-35) . . . love one another; as I have loved you . . .