WHAT MAKES A GOOD MARRIAGE?
Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. (Pro 5:18)
FOUNDATION - You always need a good foundation for your house to stand upon (Mat 7:24-27). What are you as a couple building your relationship on? Money? Career? Material things? If Jesus is the Lord of your lives then no matter the storms of life, your house will stand because He is the Rock! (1 Cor 10:4) Any other foundation is sand and won’t hold up when the testings of life come. Be like Joshua who said, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord!” (Josh 24:15) Then when difficulties come it will only strengthen your marriage instead of sink it. Pray together. Read the Word together. Attend church together. Serve the Lord together. A three-fold cord cannot be easily broken . . . you, your spouse, and Jesus! (Eccl 412).
CULTIVATION - A good marriage is where both in the relationship strive to out-serve one another. You’ll be thinking about that person and wanting to bless them. It’s like cultivating a garden. When you give it water and sunshine and a lot of attention you will see the wonderful results. When you neglect a garden you’ll get a pitiful harvest. Are you nurturing your mate? Are you spoiling him or her? Are there problems due to inattention and neglect? It’s time to do what Jesus said and that’s to be a servant of all! (Mark 9:35)
COMMUNICATION - Most couples need help in this area. It’s so important. It’ll make or break you. It is essential to a strong and vibrant marriage. How necessary it is to spend time with each other and to communicate, share your heart, as well as transfer important information. It takes a lot of time and work. You’ll need to put other priorities aside until this one is in place. It will keep you on the same page and progressing on a united front. If you don’t communicate, you’ll argue a lot and have a lot of tension and hurt feelings. That can all be avoided. God has communicated through His Son and through His Word and look at the benefits we have received. When we take time to communicate we create such a beautiful atmosphere of unity. (Psa 133:1) Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!
May the Lord strengthen our marriages through His Word and His agape love (1 Cor 13) so we can enjoy marriage the way God intended!