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  • Writer's pictureLouie Monteith


(1 Pet 3:7) Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

In this day and age of equality for all we would still have to say that men and women are still different . . . both outside and in. Let’s make a brief analysis of these differences:

Women tend to be more personal than men. Women have a deeper interest in people and feelings and in building relationships, while men tend to be more preoccupied with practicalities and problem solving through logical deduction. Men tend to be less desirous and knowledgeable in building close relationships, both with God and with others. For example, women are usually the ones who buy marriage books! Women tend to find their identity in cherished relationships, while men gain their self-worth through their work.

Then add on the physical differences: Besides the obvious differences of childbearing we know that a female outlives a male by three or four years in the U.S. Men and women differ in their skeletal structure, a woman having a shorter head, broader face, less protruding chin, shorter legs, and longer trunk. Women have larger kidneys, liver, stomach, and appendix than men, but smaller lungs. Women’s blood contains more water and 20 percent fewer red cells. Since the red cells supply oxygen to the body cells, women tire more easily and are more prone to faint. On the average, men possess 50 percent more brute strength than women (40 percent of a man’s body weight is muscle; 23 percent of a woman’s). A woman’s heart beats more rapidly (average 80 beats per minute vs. 72 for man).

Sexual differences include: A woman’s sexual drive tends to be related to her cycle, while a man’s drive is fairly constant. The hormone testosterone is a major factor in stimulating a man’s sexual desire. A woman is stimulated more by touch and romantic words. She is far more attracted by a man’s personality, while a man is stimulated by sight. While men need little or no preparations for sex, women often feel a need for emotional and mental preparation. When a man is unkind or insensitive to his wife it can easily remove her desire for intimacy.

God has made it to where opposites attract each other and counterparts complement each other. Problems develop in marriage when there is a lack of respect for each other in these differences. (1 Pet 2:17) A husband and wife need to study each other and seek to meet each other’s needs even when they don’t understand how the other “ticks.” Men especially need to work on being thoughtful, kind, gentle and more helpful around the house and with the kids. A woman can build up her man by showing respect, admiration, flirtation, and by providing an orderly home. Viva la difference!

Louie (some of the above facts are from Gary Smalley’s book “If Only He Knew”).


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